There could be episodes when we all inadvertently overstep the bounds of influence, often even crossing the line into manipulation without even realizing it. In everyday interactions, manipulative behaviors can often become a part of the routine, but they are likely to have a lasting detrimental impact on relationships and trust. The difficult part is that manipulation can be quite subtle, and even go unnoticed in one’s own behavior. Here are five indications that you may be manipulating others without your awareness here – and why they are so important to note.
You Adjust The Narrative So It’s Convenient For You
Possibly the most frequent red flag of manipulation is always changing the narrative to fulfill your requirements at that specific point in time. You may often adapt the specifics to how you want the end result to be, or how it should suit you could be confusing to them. In the long run, people may start to label you as dishonest and grow cautious in trusting whatever words come out of your mouth.
Once the trust with others starts shifting due to inconsistent behaviour, they may give up listening to you. Trust is crucial in any relationship, and without trust even the strongest of ties can begin to decay. By trying to twist the truth, you stand the chance of being isolated by everyone around you, and this is why it’s important to be consistent and honest in what you communicate.
You Use Guilt to Get What You Want
Another subtle form of manipulation is using guilt as a tool to get what you want. If you find yourself making others feel guilty for not doing something for you—especially when it’s not their responsibility—then you might be engaging in manipulative behavior. For instance, you may remind someone of services they have done for you in the past, thereby making them feel obligated to do something for you. That pressure might make them do something against their better judgment or what they want, just to avoid feeling bad.
This tactic may get you the result you want in the short term, but it can create resentment and emotional exhaustion in the long run, thereby damaging the relationship. The most damaging form of manipulation has to do with guilt; it replaces respect and mutual trust with an uncomfortable obligation.
You Take on the Role of Victim to Evade Responsibility
The notion that manipulation tactics are one of the most undetected forms of abuse comes out quite prominently here, where someone exudes such behavior embodying the ‘victim’ role straight off instead of showing promising character traits. This includes the likes of constantly blaming others for their actions and trying to market themselves as the misfortune in a given situation. Playing the victim card gives them the opportunity to seek sympathy while avoiding accountability.
There are certain advantages a victim gets away with that allows them to evade facing extreme consequences, if only temporarily. Admittedly, this seems to be an effective technique for avoiding responsibility; however, the reality fares a bit differently. What it ends up ensuring is an unhealthy relationship where you’re often expected to be ‘rescued’ or fixed by others. The vicious cycle ends with the abuser feeling pleasure but cloudy in emotional intelligence, while the victim grows miserable and learns nothing from the experience.
You Take Advantage of Other People’s Vulnerabilities
Using someone’s weaknesses against them in order to get what you want is one of the most insidious behaviors that damage relationships. It is safe to say that if you have to use a person’s low feelings or emotions to get what you want from them, it is manipulation. This form of manipulation destroys emotional safety. Over time it can heavily damage the trust present in the relationship. Target the person into feelings of betrayal when the person who is being manipulated realizes that their sensitive aspects are being used by you for your own means. This not only breaks the individual’s level of confidence but also shakes the basic structure of the relationships. The defensiveness caused by weakness manipulative control tactics tends to sever communication and cut off respect.
For Nothing You Pay Them And You Get Everything It’s Wisdom
Flattery is a way of seeking favours, but when a compliment is given with the aim of playing someone, it becomes bribery. If you find yourself excessive in praising a person on several occasions, with the sole aim of requesting something later on, this is a subtle form of manipulation. At first, the other person feels good about themselves, but then when they know it was just a compliment as a ploy to do something for you, they feel abused. That would amount, to some degree, to letting other people down because the other person sees that such a commendation does not really come out of a person’s heart but out of the mouth for sure. Although it is inclusive of courtesy to honour other people, through flattery to achieve one’s aims can be unethical to the reputation and goals others have.
How This Behavior Can be Controlled and Should Be Prevented
In every relationship, no matter how simple or complicated it is, such acts when practised must be anticipated and completely avoided: otherwise their normalization could lead to alienation and complete waste of trust. Self-control in such situations should amplify the creation of emotional bonds, whereas manipulation would only reverse this process and instead breed trust issues. Turning a blind eye to such behaviours would greatly corrode an individual’s self-identity, thus avoiding such acts is paramount.
It is evident that irrespective of manipulation, which would only breed toxic relationships, self-expression works well in aiding the formation of powerful and secure emotional bonds. To seek clarity to potential disagreements by ensuring free conversational flow and comprehension of thoughts and feelings from various viewpoints would allow the creation and promotion of healthy relationships. By acknowledging different emotions and settings such growth would yield positive change.
In the end, a word of caution that such behaviours, although brutal on an individual level, often seem innocent when scrutinised at a micro level. Relationships, in one way or another, can be improved through gradual understanding and recognition of boundaries and appreciating the sensitivity displayed by individuals. Rather than supporting exclaiming self-expression through emotional bonds, clarity on boundaries would allow all individuals to create a subsequent and intoxicating atmosphere for everyone involved.
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